Did you ever feel that no party is as meaningful as a “pity party?” It has been said that depression is the only sickness from which the sick person does not want to be delivered. For me, my greatest periods of depression have come as I’ve focused on the mistakes I’ve made and the ways in which I have hurt myself. Therein lies a great need for forgiveness. Can you identify?

Perhaps the first step in forgiving ourselves is to realize that if God, who is Holy and righteous, can forgive us, who are we to fail to do so? Is our standard higher than God’s? Are we somehow more just than God as we withhold forgiveness from ourselves? Can we somehow be right in continuing to condemn one for whom Christ died and has already forgiven? The answer, assuredly, is “No.”

Some mistakenly think that we are supposed to “forgive and forget.” Then, when we find that we still remember something we have supposedly forgiven, we think that we have actually failed to forgive. When God says in His Word that He “remembers no more,” it means He doesn’t ever bring it up to us again after forgiving us. It doesn’t mean that He suddenly develops amnesia.

We need to accept that we are not perfect but instead are far from it! Believing in Jesus doesn’t make us perfect, nor does even committing one’s life to Him. Sure, we have sinned and we will continue to sin. We need to deal with it, as 1 John 1:8,9 tells us to—by confessing it!

If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

So, let’s confess our sins to Him, learn from them, and even teach others so they don’t make the same ones. Forgive yourself and get on with making the most of the rest of your life.